My mother died two years ago and our family has fallen apart. I rarely talk to my siblings anymore and we have not all been together since mom’s funeral. Our dad died a long time ago but this is awful as I don’t feel like I have a family anymore. – Christianne
Please accept my condolences in the death of your mom. It sounds like you are missing your siblings in addition to your mother. I am wondering if perhaps your mom was the center, the hub of the family and much of the communication was routed through and shared by her? It is often this way, particularly when adult children live some distance apart yet everyone stays connected to the mother…and to each other through their mother.
Sibling relationships also change after the death of the last parent. About half of those relationships become stronger and about half weaken or disconnect. What was the nature of your sibling relationships prior to your mom’s death? Do you call them? Would you be willing to coordinate something where all of you come together aside from a funeral? Sometimes it just takes one person to take the lead. Not everyone may want to or be able to come so gather those that will and share the experience in real time via phone call, Skype or Facetime as well as afterward with any not present. If your mom was the one who traditionally organized family get-togethers, there is a leadership gap…step up. Recognize that the first few gatherings without her may be awkward and bittersweet….and everyone can work through that as your family reorganizes and heals together.