Our Celebration of Violet Wengraf
Violet Wengraf, born in London, peacefully joined her husband John
Wengraf on Aug 17, 2019. She was affectionately known as Mumsie,
Nana Vi, Auntie Vi, Great Nana Vi, and many other endearing names –
including Loving Limey. Along with joining her hubby John (“Dudsie”),
she reunited with her Mum Rose and Dad Herbert, Brothers Sid (and
Sis-in-law Dots) and Bill (and Sis-in-law Kathy), Mum-in-law Maria, and
her Brother-in-law George.
Vi grew up in London, with her brothers and sister Elsie and a tree of
Aunties, Uncles and Cousins. She lovingly spoke of her Mums’
Sunday roast dinners, her Dads’ puddings, his cheery cheeks and
smiles as he worked on the London buses, and their trips to the
seaside to picnic and soak in the sunshine. As a young adult, WWII
brought a different closeness to her family as they huddled in their
shelter during air raids on London. She joined others in riveting war
planes in support of their troops. Later she worked for the United
Nations and experienced life in Geneva, Switzerland. Upon returning to
London, she worked at a travel company on Regent Street. It was
there that she met and fell in love with John. In the mid ‘50s, she
followed her heart and joined him in the U.S. where they married and
began their family.
Raising her sons Paul and Mark, with a staple of family values, she
held a career which included 20 years at State Farm in Phoenix. The
families grew and she put her heart to others before her own. She
doted and adored her kids, grandkids, great grandkids and extended
loved ones. She possessed an endless love for remembering everyone
else’s special occasions and dates, shopping for the most unique,
touching gifts, she held so many hearts close. To this day, she kept her
lovely English accent and warmed hearts with her quips and funny
sayings. Whether cute hints to her sons like “I’ll clip your ear ‘ole”, or “I
love you poppet”, “be a dear and fetch me a flannel” (washcloth), or her
“I’m just running to the top of the street” (map directions were quite
Vi loved family outings. Always looking to take photos and capture a
beautiful flower, a scenic background, a stunning sunset. Always
scanning the skies, she’d pick out images in the clouds – a lorry over
here, a doggie over there, a bloke smoking a cigar on the mountain.
Usually invoking a good laugh as the rest of us took focus to find her
magic. She loved her scratcher tickets (“greedy sods”, if they didn’t
pay), occasional run to have a gamble (better said with her accent), and
trips to the mall to find gifts for others. She loved gardening and
working to keep her yard “tidy”. Even in her 90’s, raking and trimming
Vi was amazingly strong and took pride in her independence, while
always tending to family first and endless memories. Only in her last
year would she see a change that would have her join her kids in their
home and be surrounded by the very love and care which she taught.
Her conviction took her through a journey of Alzheimer’s and Dementia with
an immense courage.
Know that Vi had tremendous love and support throughout this from her
entire family and she cherished the closeness during such difficult
times. She would want to express heartfelt thanks for the selfless love
from her entire extended family.
Vi’s memories will live on through her sons Paul & wife Brenda, Mark & wife
Karen, grandkids Lukas, Kelly, Lauren, Matt, Joseph, Patrick, John,
Sam, Jakob, Bethie, Justin, Danielle, Brianna, great grand
grandchildren Kara, Emma, Slade, James, and Jacqueline, her loving
family of Judy, Jim, Patty, Kimmy, Travis, Dondi, Mike, great nephews
and nieces Danny, Brandon, MacKenzie, and across the pond her
sister Elsie, nephews and nieces Deb, Stuart, Jayne and Craig, and
their extended families.
We share these stories in honor of our Mom and respecting her wishes
in lieu of a service. If you would like to honor Vi in your own way,
please consider volunteering for, or donations to, Hospice of the Valley
or the Alzheimer’s Association. We will be having a private celebration
of her life. Hold and treasure those close to you.
We will always love you Mom. You will be in our memories today and
new memories ahead. Warm up the hiking trails with Dad!
Our Celebration of Violet Wengraf